Hot dating games for girls
And to all my NG fans-- there are only a few of you, but I love ya!
For the NG boys, I included a girl for Sara to court, woot. Seems like it's harder for us girls to find dating sims than for guys to find dating sims.
You think: All single women are on Tinder and variety is my ally.
She thinks: Tinder is a Greyhound bus full of slobbering old men.
Our automatic response is to chase when the "other" pulls away.
This is the core thinking of the partner who initiates hot/cold, and serves as their safety net to vulnerability. Because relationship uncertainty makes human beings yearn for stability.
One minute you're high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you're frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don't understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games.
Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. Once we have the ability to see hot and cold for what it is, we're less likely to suffer its negative effects.
Try this: Stop carpet bombing; investigate surgical strikes.
Women give high marks to Bumble, the “lady first” app, for safety features that chase away twitchers, droolers, and stalkers. Try this: Pictures are a split-second opportunity to land that right swipe, so: 1) Get a great headshot to lead with (read: smile, take off your sunglasses).